You know the type.... While they were wearing that XXL jacket you were the only friend in the world to them. You never mentioned their weight because to you, they were more than just a physical being. They were a human, just like you.... Feelings and emotions. And yes, maybe you discussed toe weight before, but you always gave them encouragement. You let them know that no matter how big or small they are, you would always be a true friend. And when they spoke about wanting to lose the weight, you helped them form a plan and even went shopping with them for healthier snacks. And yes, you still had the occasional unhealthy meal with them, but for the most part you wanted to help them feel great about themselves. Then it finally happens. They dropped the weight. From a XXL they are down to a medium. All that hard work paid off. The tears they shed on your shoulder are all dried up. The hours on the treadmill and laps in the pool have all been worth it! Finally, your dear friend is skinny! And maybe you are still a bit large, not XXL large, but L-XL.... And maybe you are working on that, or you are more than happy the way you are.... But just when you think you and your friend can hit the town with confidence and not have to try and find clothes to hide those love handles, your friend forgets who you are.... THEY ARE NOW ONE OF THE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
Thats right, they are now part of those elite humans that can only be seen with people of their ilk. They shop for a whole new wardrobe, get invited to all the best parties and leave your ass at home at every chance because their new friends is so much better than the you. You know, those new friends that wouldn't look at them before the weight loss. That probably pointed and cracked jokes; the type of things you never would have done. But oh how soon we forget! Nope, New Skinny (Nouveau Mince in French) is better off without you, True Friend. Nope, Nouveau;s life is exactly where they want it and you no longer matter to them. Ignored emails and text messages, hurried phone calls, cancelled plans, not showing up for events. Yea, you know what I mean.... WHO THE HELL DO THEY THINK THEY ARE?!?!?!?!?!
You know, sometimes people need a taste of reality. Let me tell you, for most of my life I was a pretty fit and thin dude. But now, not so much. But I am working on it. I want to be fit again. But not at the expense of my friends. No, for my own happiness. Because I like to shop for trendy clothes that I look good in... And I want to wear fitted jeans to go out in, instead of settling for the "relaxed fit" ones. My friends accept me for who I am on the inside. Not what I look like on the outside. People that decide they are all of a sudden to good for their friends because they some how upgraded their life are sad and empty individuals indeed. They seem to forget who was their with them through "thick and thin". That they are basically one cheeseburger away from going to back to wearing those Lane Bryant stretch jeans or the Big n Tall Section at the Men's Wearhouse. Nouveau really thinks they are the shit. They try to repress what it was like being large and in charge. Nouveau, even with all the weight loss, still lacks confidence and self esteem. And these "new" friends of theirs aren't going to help them with that. Nope, you were the person responsible for that, and now they have alienated you and made it seem as if you were only a stepping stone to a new life, not a friend to have...
Well, to hell with them! Karma they say is a bitch. What happens when all the glamor is washed away from their new life. What happens when they do start to put back on that weight? You know, the 5 to ten pounds during the holidays that turn into 20-40 lbs during the winter. What happens when you start getting text messages and emails and phone calls? Do you ignore them or do you stay the friend you once were and answer? I Say fuck'em.... Keep it moving.... they had no problem lighting that bridge on fire when they got skinny, so I say that that mother f***er burn! Show them what it is like to feel like you are begging for a friend... How you waited for them to show up at your place so you can go to the movies, only to get stood up because they were at a nightclub instead. Naw, to hell with them.... Keep it moving and go on with your life, the same way they did to you. I know they say to forgive. And I never said you shouldn't... But it doesn't mean you have to accept them back into your life. You can forgive them and still say go to hell at the same time.... Because in all true reality, you were in hell waiting for them to be a friend back to you.... Maybe they will realize that the next time they feel like being Nouveau....
Talk to you soon......
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